Sex Workers are People

 

In regards to the porn star Anthony Weiner was involved with, someone told me that she said, “All I wanted was to talk about politics.”*  They laughed and basically said “What does she expect?!  She’s a porn star.”

You know what she expected? She expected to be treated like a person.  It is true that people are often equated with their jobs.  If you meet a realtor you want to talk realestate and with a writer you want to talk writing.  When those people complain that “All anyone wants to talk to me about is my job,” we would all think, “yeah, I bet that sucks.”   But all a porn star gets is “What do you expect?”

This is ridiculous.  For sex workers, porn stars, prostitutes, stripers and anyone else you can think of, sex is, in some capacity or another, their job.  You may not approve of their job, but there are plenty of other, more culturally and legally accepted, jobs that lots of people disapprove of.  This could include butcher (for us vegetarians), lawyers, cops, IRS agents, politicians or any number of jobs.  The only reason sex worker is in a separate category is because our society holds sex in a category all its own.

I don’t want to argue here whether or not that separate category makes sense.  I want to point out that “porn star” is a job.  In fact, it may be a job that makes that individual happier than your job makes you.  Even if it doesn’t, it certainly does not make them less than you or anyone else.  It is a job and does not tell you anything about that person other than how they make money**.   It doesn’t tell you if they like rock climbing, reading the complete works of Shakespeare every year or volunteer rescuing injured wild birds.  It certainly does not tell you their level of political involvement or interest.

*I don’t know if she actually said this.  I am interested to know, but it is not the point of my post.  The point is the reaction it got.

**That’s a bit simplified, I’ll admit.  It does tell you that they likely have had a higher than average number of sexual partners, but with regular regulated testing and proper protection that is/wouldn’t a huge problem.  And the only people it is a concern for is any future sexual partners.

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About Tori

I am a graduate student working on my masters in Women and Gender studies. My masters thesis is on the gender nonconformity and ambiguity in modern film.
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5 Responses to Sex Workers are People

  1. Jack says:

    ” This could include butcher (for us vegetarians), lawyers, cops, IRS agents, politicians or any number of jobs.”

    This is f’n stupid. A police officer goes to work every day risking his life to protect the innocent, while a porn star goes to work to get cummed on. Sorry if I underappreciate my porn stars. but your job defines you to a degree. There’s a reason why people don’t broadcast their sexual exploits, in fear of judgments, and they know they will be looked at poorly, and if you decide to disregard that and become a porn star, you are showing a lack of appreciation for yourself and not caring what others look at you as. Now if someone were to say, well fuck what society thinks, I’ma do me and I dont care if people look at me poorly. Well, tough shit, because this is the world we live in, and what’s moral isn’t always ethical and isn’t always what is best.

    • Tori says:

      It is the world we live in, that is correct. That is the point. I don’t like it and I want it to change so I’m going to point it out. I don’t think that people should be judged by their sex lives, since most people will stop exploring a person at that point.

      I do see porn stars and cop sas different. That statement was not meant to equate all aspects of those professions. The fact is there are people who do not like cops, including perfectly law abiding citizens, so a person’s opinion of what is an “honorable” job is just that, an opinion.

    • yb says:

      “There’s a reason why people don’t broadcast their sexual exploits, in fear of judgments, and they know they will be looked at poorly, and if you decide to disregard that and become a porn star, you are showing a lack of appreciation for yourself and not caring what others look at you as.”

      So people should choose their jobs based on what other people will think of them? What a sad, pathetic world full of sad, pathetic people that would be. Doing what you want to do in spite of what other people think is a virtue that shows strength. Not doing what you want to do because you’re afraid of being judged shows a lack of confidence and a lack of bravery. A porn star doing what they love deserves way more respect than someone in another job who wants to be a porn star but is afraid of what people will think.

      “Well, tough shit, because this is the world we live in”

      You’re right, no point in trying to make anything better. You lost all your money to the banks? Tough shit, that’s the world we live in. Corrupt politician embezzled government funds? Tough shit, that’s the world we live in. People starving in Africa? Tough shit, that’s the world we live in. Why try to change anything when indolent apathy is fo much easier?

      Anyway, everything you said was orthogonal to her point: That porn stars are just as likely to have intelligent politics as anyone else. Unless your point was that she’s actually right, but tough shit, that’s the world we live in. Which isn’t a very good point.

  2. Jack says:

    “Doing what you want to do in spite of what other people think is a virtue that shows strength. Not doing what you want to do because you’re afraid of being judged shows a lack of confidence and a lack of bravery.”

    Being a porn star = bravery. Good one. GTFO with that shit.

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